Q: hi, im in shock as i have just found out im pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years, we live together and at the mo im at college, i want to go to uni next year. We both wanted the same thing, good career, good home and then after a few years have children. He really wants me to have an abortion and has brought up great points, we are not ready, dont have enough money, in the middle of education and so on. im 26 he is 31. The thing is i don't agree with abortions and don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling regret and ashamed. I know its not the right time but its happened. I know i wouldn't be able to give it up, so im just trying to come to terms with the situation and the hand i have been dealt. Right now i feel i have ruined his life as he only talks of devastation. Not sure he will ever come round to the idea or he will only stay with me through sense of duty. Just feeling really confused right now. Any words of advice would be appreciated please.
A: no one is ever ready or has enough money for a baby, but you do the best you can. people regret having an abortion but no one regrets having a child. you can make it work, it would be difficult and not what you planned but its still possible. im 19 & pregnant, just starting my education and not as financial stable as id like to be, i wasnt sure if i would have an abortion either but in my heart i KNEW it couldnt kill my child. when i heard my sons heartbeat it was incredible and i know i made the right choice. my boyfriend is supportive and so are our families and although i would have prefer to wait, i know the day i hold my son everything will fall into place. Im just going to have to work harder then most people do what is right for you, its your body and YOUR CHOICE good luck