Why is this so hard for me?

Q: I will be 19 weeks pregnant on monday and I still haven't told work. My supervisor was just here doing a post check (I work security and have to man different positions), anyways Im like really super shy and I don't talk a lot to people anyways. And he sat down for a few minutes and talked to me about some stuff. But I was trying to work the nerve up to go a head and tell him while he was here and it was just me and him. But I couldn't do it, and he went on to the next post, and now Im just depressed about it. Im sure he could tell that something was up with me because I wasn't saying much of nothing. I was pregnant before and i was sixteen weeks before I told work, but then I miscarried a week later almost. It took me an hour of calming myself down in the breakroom before I went and told them last time. And the fact I miscarried last time makes it worst than before. Its only been 8 or 9 months ago. My supervisor is a nice guy and all. I don't like the boss above him though. Because last time he went and told all the senior security officers and was always asking me questions about it, I just didn't think it was appropriate. I just get anxiety attacks kinda because im so shy. But the weird thing is i can go talk to them about work stuff all the time with no problem, but this is so hard. Im already heavy person so Im not really showing, I just look like ive gained more wait if you are wondering about that. I just need some encouragement to get up the nerve to tell them. I thought about waiting till after my ultra sound at 21 weeks just so I know that all is still going ok with the baby. But I will really be showing by then. Should I just wait or go a head.

A: It sounds like a lot of it has to do with the miscarriage before. I had one earlier this year as well and was very hesitant to tell anyone about my current preganancy too. It was too hard after losing the last one and having people come up to congradulate me only for me then to have to tell them we lost it. I totally understand you wanting to wait until your ultrasound and ease of mind...that is still also giving them basically 4-5 months notice for your maternity leave. Dont stress and tell them when it feels right for you.

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